The Shitty Art of Dating
Posted 07-13-2012 at 05:07 AM by akatsuki16
Alright so tonight I went on a date/hang out with a chick I met at a bar a few days ago. She asked if I had any plans tonight, which I didnt; so I told her Id come hang out with her. So I picked her up, on the way to this bar we were goin to, we had some small talk, got to know her a little bit, and regardless of her tellimg me that she was a stripper for a week, I was into her. (Mainly because she was really cute) And I know that sometimes people do stupid things for cash money.
When we got to the bar, her friends were there. Which I was cool with because it wasnt an ""official date". However after about hanging out for about 5 minutes, one of her friends was telling her that they were gonna leave soon and pressuring her to go with them. So about 5 more minutes pass and she gets up to go to the bathroom. Not a minute after her friends get up to go look at the volleyball courts apparently. And just leave me sitting by myself without asking me if I wanted to go with them, I pretty much didnt exist to them. Because after about 10 more minutes of me waiting for.my "date" to get back, she texts me and tells me that she ledt with her friends, even though she didnt even say bye. She said that she was looking for me to.say bye. But I was in the exact same spot at the bar almost the entire time. I told her that and all she said was "damn."
So long story short, I got ditched and had to drive 30 minutes back to my friends while I was kinda drunk. And Im still feel bad about it because I kinda liked her. And being stood up/ditched has never happened to me before. So I was shocked and incredibly pissed off. Because honestly, Im not bragging but Im a pretty good looking guy and I have an amazing sense of humor which always makes fmy first dates good. And never in a million years would I have thought that I wouldve been ditched by a girl the first time we hung out/ went on a date.
I just wanted to post this on here because it feels good to write about some of the stressful things like dating going on in your life. And I've had really rough experiences with dating these past few months. For example, one girl I broke up with is telling me shes pregnant, and is threatening to put a restraining order on me, just because I went over to her house, only once after we broke up, to make her take a pregnancy test. She refused, slammed the door shut and threatened to call the police.
So.I.thought this girl wouldve been the pick me up I needed. Apparently not. Im not being rude when I say this but dont bother saying things like " dont worry, theres plenty of other fish in the sea", basic advice like that. Because Im not knew to dating, and have had plenty of experience with it; Im 22, not 12.
Also sorry for the.bad grammar. Smart phones arent the best source for typing
want to know if someone else has been in the same boat
When we got to the bar, her friends were there. Which I was cool with because it wasnt an ""official date". However after about hanging out for about 5 minutes, one of her friends was telling her that they were gonna leave soon and pressuring her to go with them. So about 5 more minutes pass and she gets up to go to the bathroom. Not a minute after her friends get up to go look at the volleyball courts apparently. And just leave me sitting by myself without asking me if I wanted to go with them, I pretty much didnt exist to them. Because after about 10 more minutes of me waiting for.my "date" to get back, she texts me and tells me that she ledt with her friends, even though she didnt even say bye. She said that she was looking for me to.say bye. But I was in the exact same spot at the bar almost the entire time. I told her that and all she said was "damn."
So long story short, I got ditched and had to drive 30 minutes back to my friends while I was kinda drunk. And Im still feel bad about it because I kinda liked her. And being stood up/ditched has never happened to me before. So I was shocked and incredibly pissed off. Because honestly, Im not bragging but Im a pretty good looking guy and I have an amazing sense of humor which always makes fmy first dates good. And never in a million years would I have thought that I wouldve been ditched by a girl the first time we hung out/ went on a date.
I just wanted to post this on here because it feels good to write about some of the stressful things like dating going on in your life. And I've had really rough experiences with dating these past few months. For example, one girl I broke up with is telling me shes pregnant, and is threatening to put a restraining order on me, just because I went over to her house, only once after we broke up, to make her take a pregnancy test. She refused, slammed the door shut and threatened to call the police.
So.I.thought this girl wouldve been the pick me up I needed. Apparently not. Im not being rude when I say this but dont bother saying things like " dont worry, theres plenty of other fish in the sea", basic advice like that. Because Im not knew to dating, and have had plenty of experience with it; Im 22, not 12.
Also sorry for the.bad grammar. Smart phones arent the best source for typing
want to know if someone else has been in the same boat
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shit happens like that.
One thing i see in more women then men.
Is the fact women who cant be honest,its like if you don't like me or want to hang why not just say so?
I at least respect those who are upfront and honest,rather then lie ,ditch or just ignore thinking that's the best solution.
i have experienced this in real life,sometimes it gets awkward and ditch because they cant be upfront.
Even times ive tried great dating sites ,which got no result because nobody could be honest,even if it was just a simple conversation to talk with people of interest.Posted 07-13-2012 at 05:12 AM by Nate_River
Updated 07-13-2012 at 05:17 AM by Nate_River -
Well she was the one who asked me to hang out. Although she couldve used me.just for a ride. But when I met her at the bar, she was all over me. Who knows.Posted 07-13-2012 at 05:18 AM by akatsuki16 -
sorry im probably not helpin bbut,,,,,T Pain - Im In Love With A Stripper (Official Music) - YouTubePosted 07-13-2012 at 05:26 AM by josemz - Its cool, you got a laugh out of me. Although, ye be warned, post ones that dont make me laugh and I'll impregnate you with a Prometheus-like child. Like I did that one b*tch I talked about above.Posted 07-13-2012 at 05:30 AM by akatsuki16
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This EXACT same thing, almost word for word, happened to me like a month ago.
I met a nice/good looking girl at a bar who seemed really into me, after we made small talk and got into a slightly deeper conversation she was all over me and even kissed me once or twice before the night was over. So we exchanged numbers and I went home as did she. The next day I wake up because someone was calling my cell, it was her, she asked if I was down to kick with her at the mall so I said sure why not. I meet her at the mall and we proceed to make jokes and laugh at eachother which eventually led to her grabbing my hand and holding it as we walked, so by this point I'm thinking "She's my next girlfriend, I can feel it". Then shit hits the fan.
We run into a group of her friends. She could not have stopped holding my hand faster than she did. Suddenly I apparently became unfunny and just plain not fun to be around. We ended up all going to get something to eat from the food court. Everything seemed a little better at this point or so I thought. She suddenly gets up and says she's going to the bathroom. So I'm like "Okay. That's fine." Then at the same time all her friends get up and say the same thing. I'm like "This is a little weird but whatever." so they go to the bathroom and I continue eating. Five minutes later I get a text from her saying that something came up with her and her friends and that they had all left. So I text her back saying "I hope everythings okay, and that we get hang out again soon". That was the last time I heard from her to this day. I'm still wondering what exactly happened. It's bullshit and trust me when I say that I feel you bro.Posted 07-13-2012 at 05:43 AM by Devil Bat - Yea, thats the number one thing that worries me about talking to someone new. You never know uf theyre going to just randomly stop being into you. Its only when I get into an actual relationship when that worry leaves me.Posted 07-13-2012 at 05:50 AM by akatsuki16
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I feel bad for laughing. I'm sorry for even doing so. I couldnt help myself
But yes, a lot of girls are like that. From what I read they are the type who are influenced too much by their peers. I've experienced that kinda shit up until around my second year of college. Love and friendship dont really mix well. But it's bad and rude to be like that!
I've seen akatsuki and DB, and I can say you guys are hot
I wouldn't ditch you like that. lol. I like it better when I actually go on dates that dont involve my friends. >_> And if i dont like a guy, I'd say it upfront. Which makes me look like prissy ***** sometimes. Posted 07-13-2012 at 05:53 AM by Kaprichosa -
When your "date" says "I need to go use the restroom" you pretty much can just get up and leave because she isn't coming back. n.nPosted 07-13-2012 at 06:07 AM by Metalicz -
Feel for you man but if you wanna get with her you gotta get with her friends... (ohhhhhh spice girls) and her friends sound like *****es. And her not much better for being so craven (ohhhhhhhh GoT) Saved yourself in the long run imoPosted 07-13-2012 at 06:13 AM by Freya - Ive been on plenty of dates that said that. And I guess there biological urges were not a lie because they somehow came back. Hard to believe I know. -.- Then again, they werent with their friends.Posted 07-13-2012 at 06:15 AM by akatsuki16
- True that.Quote:Originally Posted by Freya
Feel for you man but if you wanna get with her you gotta get with her friends... (ohhhhhh spice girls) and her friends sound like *****es. And her not much better for being so craven (ohhhhhhhh GoT) Saved yourself in the long run imoPosted 07-13-2012 at 06:17 AM by akatsuki16 - Don't worry about laughing at my story because I laughed at it myself after I thought about it for a while. I mean it was such a strange and unfamiliar situation and I was at such a loss that it's kind of funny that it ended up the way it did. I figured her friends had something to do with it, now I'm thinking it was all their doing.Quote:Originally Posted by Kaprichosa I feel bad for laughing. I'm sorry for even doing so. I couldnt help myself
But yes, a lot of girls are like that. From what I read they are the type who are influenced too much by their peers. I've experienced that kinda shit up until around my second year of college. Love and friendship dont really mix well. But it's bad and rude to be like that!
I've seen akatsuki and DB, and I can say you guys are hot I wouldn't ditch you like that. lol. I like it better when I actually go on dates that dont involve my friends. >_> And if i dont like a guy, I'd say it upfront. Which makes me look like prissy ***** sometimes.
By the way, thank you complementing me on my looks as well as saying that you would not ditch me if put in that situation. It's always nice to know. You're pretty hot yourself girl.
Great. Now this is going to be in my head on my next date and I'm going to assume that's what going to happen if she goes to use the bathroom. I'm sure I'll get up and leave then she'll come back and be like "What the f*ck? Where did he go?" then I'll text her later saying "Going to the bathroom? Like I never heard that one before. B*tch." and screw up the whole situation and any future possibilities all in one go.Quote:Originally Posted by Metalicz When your "date" says "I need to go use the restroom" you pretty much can just get up and leave because she isn't coming back. n.nPosted 07-13-2012 at 06:22 AM by Devil Bat -
I lol'd :'DQuote:Im not bragging but Im a pretty good looking guy and I have an amazing sense of humor which always makes fmy first dates good.Posted 07-13-2012 at 06:35 AM by ruhena - Told you I have an amazing sense of humor. Wanna go out sometime?Posted 07-13-2012 at 06:59 AM by akatsuki16
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Women are weird creatures.Posted 07-13-2012 at 07:15 AM by SynergY - My thought is afraid of commitment.
Yes there are Syn,yes they are.Posted 07-13-2012 at 07:25 AM by Nate_River - You've wooed me. If it doesn't work out with her I call next.Quote:Originally Posted by akatsuki16 Told you I have an amazing sense of humor. Wanna go out sometime?
Always and forever my friend.Quote:Originally Posted by SynergY Women are weird creatures.Posted 07-13-2012 at 07:27 AM by Devil Bat -
I would never do that to you <3 Leave those b!tches and marry mePosted 07-13-2012 at 07:31 AM by memica -
You should of been an asshole she would of been more likely to cling to you then.
She likes to experiement girls who strip usually get into other girls as well, friends may be closer then you think.
She is also easily influenced probably both flirty and shy not to be able to face you upfront or say no to her friends.
She probably knew her friends would be there counting on it to make her feel less awkward because she is probably not use to actually dating but more use to getting into flings or relationships with people she can't really have.
The thought of something actually working out is scary where heartbreak is more familiar.
She likes the fact that she can attract men, but at the same time the nice ones or the ones she don't have to chase or no fun.
If you are 22 I am guessing she at least that young or younger but I won't assume nothing.
If so it will probably be a few more years before she gets tired of that game and actually takes real notice of a nice guy.
Losing the flirty nature is another story though, but you can be flirty and faithful.
Oh one more thing I have dated guys that looked like they walked off the cover of GQ magazine (models) and was bored out of my freakin mind, then I preffer to be the one seek out my prey not the other way around.
I am married now but he is still my preyPosted 07-13-2012 at 07:51 AM by narusasu1 - Shes actually older than me. Surprisingly enough. But apparently still has the mindset of a teenager to ditch me like that.Posted 07-13-2012 at 07:59 AM by akatsuki16
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