Understanding
Posted 02-08-2010 at 07:28 AM by Kain
What does it mean to understand someone or something? That's my topic today, and yes my dear reader it's as always a negative view. But why is it a negative view and not a positive...because I had met so few of people that could completely understand who I am, what I am, how I act, how I interact, what values I hold, and how I carry such values out. I understand this maybe one of the worst places to constantly convey such things, yet I know a few of you may care...and thus may give a word of advice upon such skewed view or slight consultation of my reactions.
As most of you know, I do have problem...who doesn't. Mine are a bit abnormal though, and are usually seemingly injustified...however I can only state that one would have to experience what I've experienced...felt what I have felt...known what I have known...what revelations had become evident in my mind...and what truths have become false words in my life to begin even comprehending why I am this way. But I don't wish a person to know why I am this way, that is something they may desire. I say this because noone can truly understand what everyone else is like, because we all change...cell by cell, event by event, second by second...and I am no different in that specifics. What I'm trying to understand is how am I able to comprehend much of what everyone else portrays, what they're trying to get me to see...while they, have no idea of even the simplistic views I present. I state something completely simple, perhaps with slight sarcasm of a joke...and a person takes it with such regard of me being serious that he/she forgets the topic and context and jumps to the instant conclusion of throwing up a self-defense mechanism and attacking me. Or perhaps I state something serious, one of value...one thing that should be held in some understanding of higher placements...and it's brushed aside...thrown to the ground...and walked upon just for the amusement of another. Do I merely somehow give off views of being hypocritical in my nature that everything I do has the opposing meaning? Or is it something different? Such as I place myself in locations that people expect me to be a certain way, and when I'm not...they still take it to be that certain way? Either one makes sense...perhaps its a combination of the two...or something else entirely...however, I must inquire this my dear readers for I need to know what needs to be changed in order to exist in at least half of harmony within this realm...
As most of you know, I do have problem...who doesn't. Mine are a bit abnormal though, and are usually seemingly injustified...however I can only state that one would have to experience what I've experienced...felt what I have felt...known what I have known...what revelations had become evident in my mind...and what truths have become false words in my life to begin even comprehending why I am this way. But I don't wish a person to know why I am this way, that is something they may desire. I say this because noone can truly understand what everyone else is like, because we all change...cell by cell, event by event, second by second...and I am no different in that specifics. What I'm trying to understand is how am I able to comprehend much of what everyone else portrays, what they're trying to get me to see...while they, have no idea of even the simplistic views I present. I state something completely simple, perhaps with slight sarcasm of a joke...and a person takes it with such regard of me being serious that he/she forgets the topic and context and jumps to the instant conclusion of throwing up a self-defense mechanism and attacking me. Or perhaps I state something serious, one of value...one thing that should be held in some understanding of higher placements...and it's brushed aside...thrown to the ground...and walked upon just for the amusement of another. Do I merely somehow give off views of being hypocritical in my nature that everything I do has the opposing meaning? Or is it something different? Such as I place myself in locations that people expect me to be a certain way, and when I'm not...they still take it to be that certain way? Either one makes sense...perhaps its a combination of the two...or something else entirely...however, I must inquire this my dear readers for I need to know what needs to be changed in order to exist in at least half of harmony within this realm...
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“Yearn to understand first and to be understood second.” Beca Lewis
“The reality of the other person lies not in what he reveals to you, but what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says, but rather to what he does not say.” Khalil GibranPosted 02-08-2010 at 09:23 AM by ffmmm
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still on this topic?
you shouldnt have to change simply because you "dont fit in"
they should respect the way you are and accept itPosted 02-08-2010 at 09:51 AM by Ayame -
You are a nice writer
OK let“s leave that aside!
There so many things to say to this, I would like to explain it in more details, but my answer could spam this page, lol, but let me do this in a simple manner, clear and easy
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my bad I will be back to update this comment...
I have to leave now
sorry Kain cu later OK?Posted 02-08-2010 at 10:06 AM by KingSaintAO -
interesting replies...but not much help...especially the quotes...Posted 02-08-2010 at 01:54 PM by Kain -
to understand is not to accept but to realize and know that which needs to be understood, I do not seek acceptance for I know many will never know or understand me.
Thats the way I feel, but I don't need to be understood, it doesn't really take much priority with me.
I won't try to fathom your mind Kain, because any mind is as deep and labyrinthian as my own and your own, there is no true understanding.Posted 02-08-2010 at 02:10 PM by ShiroiSadeisuto -
My mind must be especially clear today, since I actually understood most of what you wrote. =) (by "understand" I mean the syntax and grammer made sense to me)
I flatter myself in believing that I have at least scratched the surface of your experiences... and you are right. There is little understanding for anyone who has not experienced what you have experienced... But.. the same could be said of anyone. We all have our own experiences, and if we allow them to work within us, we can at least gain empathy, if not true understanding, for another's experiences.
Just because someone hasn't been through the same trials .. or joys... you have does not mean they can't understand the emotions. You are a particularly complex person to know, Kain, because you keep so much of yourself in reserve. Perhaps that is why there is misunderstanding when you do communicate. However... THIS IS Kain... like it or lump it. Aya is right (again)... do not become what anyone wants of you... work to be what YOU want you to be, and allow others their right to misunderstand you, if they do not have the patience, will, or desire to understand instead.Posted 02-08-2010 at 04:28 PM by kimmm6
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