When you meet new people/making friends issues:

[Sissy]

So i have a question. when you meet someone for the first time whether that person is a relative or just a stranger, you start hanging out and stuff
you might have things in common like working together or taking a class together and you start thinking this person is fun i want to continue to hang out with him/her.
2 questions : How do you tell if they actually like you(not romantically)and how do you deal with it when they stop answering the phone and barely reply your texts?
Sometimes i feel like I am doing something really wrong( i say this because i get a lot of staring sometimes) but no one tells me shit. So I'm trying to figure it out all by myself. Maybe it's not always my problem. Don't know.

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[Tsunade46]

I don't think your doing anything wrong,sometimes people just don't have anything to say,you might have a lot to say,just wait for them to call or text, or wait a week before you do the same.Thats how I would deal with it.

How do you deal with some one who is mean at times?( this person is a friend ) but you know can be really nice too.
Do you tell them straight up or do you ignore them?

[Sissy]

Well if it was me and if it was bothering me i would just tell them.
Wait for the right moment and as i nicely as i can i would tell them
and explain myself as to why it bothers me and also ask them why they do it
and be like if you respect me don't treat me like this.
I have a cousin like that, she could be really nice and sometimes really
mean and meddling so i just declared war and told her how i felt.
She hasn't stopped completely but she's a lot better now.
Hope it helps you and thank you for posting

[Tsunade46]

Your welcome and thank you too, I'll see if it helps..

[InspiritStar]

I wouldn't say your doing anything wrong hon but people basically are selfish. As bad as it is to say you will find people in your life who you will click with and who are similar to yourself and that will just work. Then you will meet those who you click with but you seem to be doing all the giving and there half assed about the whole thing. You will begin to think your not dun or something is wrong with yourself but seriously those sort of people do not know how to think of anyone else but themselves and it is there loss.

i have been where you are now and still am to a degree the only difference is.. i am now past caring which i think is worse.

I have known a girl since she was 16 and she is now 25 and we were so close throughout the years before we had kids. She wanted to go out drinking all the time, socialising, everything was go go go. I then moved away and we barely spoke but as soon as i moved back to where i am now we clicked instantly back in and saw each other a lot. We both had children at this time and cause we had the one evenings were free as my OH worked late hours meaning i was alone a lot. We got this huge pool for the yard and she was round almost three times a week in there, drinking and listening to music. The whole summer she was round mine bigtime. Then i moved to somewhere without a garden, fell pregnant and because i refuse to drink whilst being pregnant i did not see her the whole pregnancy. Now i see her barely because she has two kids like myself and is out four times a week drinking and socialising whereas id rather be at home looking after my family and doing my house up.

Those sort of people only want something when it suits them you will find your seeing if they want to meet up and you get "ill see" or "ill let you know" or "not tonight as doing stuff" or "ive got work tommorow" then you find out there going out four times a week and not bothering to get back to you about meeting up. Yet when they contact you and you reply you have plans they moan and keep on until you give it or turn off your phone. so basically everything on there terms.

In my house now i can only have ppl round on fridays and saterdays as i refuse to on school days and when my oh has work at 9. She has said she was only do tues and weds which she knows is a school night and he has work and when i reply sorry no can do oh has work and kids school. She replies so does mine and well be quiet.

Those sort of people are selfish! you should never rotate your life around them. Those sort of people will be the ones to avoid do not get where i am. Where there is a lot of history to kick them to the kurb.

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How did i deal with the situation above i basically haven't... i sent a message once in a blue moon asking to let me know when she is free in advance so i can get back to her about meeting up. She then asks me days she knows i wont and tries forcing me basically i put my feet down and grit my teeth and say no can do and then thats it. But it is hard because they will do everything they can to get there way like saying "ah damn, we wont be able to meet for the next three months" best thing to do is be honest like i have done and state the truth.

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I have a lady i met through my daughters school and it is the complete opposite. Never met her before or spoke and cause our kids were getting hurt at school we spoke and joined forces that was 6 months ago and now i have a amazing support friend and someone who likes me for me. Took me a long time to find but when you do youll know, sadly there will be ten bad friends to 1.

You can count the ammount of good friends you have on one hand when your older and it is so true and nine times out of ten three of them will be family and your partner.

I dont know if i have helped, i think i have just rambled...

[Sissy]

You didn't ramble, i just don't know what to say, you have writen all this, thank you for sharing it, it helps knowing that we all go through similar situations, i just don't know what I can say that can help.

I know this person, until recently i considered her, an old friend, i have known her since i was about 6 or 7 years old(Iam 23 almost 24 now). For years we would hang out and then lose touch until we reached high school where we would hang out a lot more, she would come to my house, i would go to hers ,etc etc. I never ever had a problem with her.
The only thing that bothered me was that sometimes it seemed like i was the only one trying.

Long story short, she got married at 18 and had a baby at 19(born again christian) i on the other hand went on a different road and have been trying to live a normal life. A month ago she added me on facebook, i was so happy to see her again, see how she was doing, we messaged each other for a few days, telling each other our news.

2 days later she deleted me. Why? Don't know, don't care, just thought i'd share
for those who had a similar experience.

[kokosama]

For me, when i make new friends, they usually are similar to me in actions and stuff...
so i never tell them that i like them, because for me, it sounds weird.
but if i said to someone that i like him/her, and they stop answering the phone and barely reply my texts, then it's their loss. XD

[InspiritStar]

Originally Posted by Sissy

You didn't ramble, i just don't know what to say, you have writen all this, thank you for sharing it, it helps knowing that we all go through similar situations, i just don't know what I can say that can help.

I know this person, until recently i considered her, an old friend, i have known her since i was about 6 or 7 years old(Iam 23 almost 24 now). For years we would hang out and then lose touch until we reached high school where we would hang out a lot more, she would come to my house, i would go to hers ,etc etc. I never ever had a problem with her.
The only thing that bothered me was that sometimes it seemed like i was the only one trying.

Long story short, she got married at 18 and had a baby at 19(born again christian) i on the other hand went on a different road and have been trying to live a normal life. A month ago she added me on facebook, i was so happy to see her again, see how she was doing, we messaged each other for a few days, telling each other our news.

2 days later she deleted me. Why? Don't know, don't care, just thought i'd share
for those who had a similar experience.

No no you don't need to say anything hon, i know what needs to be done hehe i was sharing to let you know your not alone. I also know how it feels to be feeling like your the only one trying.

Do you think her other half told her to delete you because your taking a different road. It does seem really weird that she added you and then deleted you.

[Sissy]

Originally Posted by InspiritStar

No no you don't need to say anything hon, i know what needs to be done hehe i was sharing to let you know your not alone. I also know how it feels to be feeling like your the only one trying.

Do you think her other half told her to delete you because your taking a different road. It does seem really weird that she added you and then deleted you.

Probably because i checked all the messages we sent to each other and there's wasn't anything offensive, i just wrote about my news and she wrote about hers and then delete. So yeah really weird. What kind of reason is there you think? I honestly cannot think of any reason as to why she would do it, the only thing she did was show me what kind of person she is, surely not a "friend" anymore.

[Sissy]

Sorry double post.